Be hard on yourself.

I do stupid things sometimes. And not just things like in the photo below, where I have to put a ladder on top of my BED (isn’t the first rule of ladders “a stable surface”?) to install and remove my vent deflectors each year.  No problem so far, but it does make for a dicey task.

We all do stupid things, I suppose, though as someone who has not always been aware of the effect of my words and actions in the past I really try to keep close watch on that particular part of me (and have for the last ten years).  Whether it is just cracking jokes without realizing I have hurt someone’s feelings or letting my anxiety get the best of me so I am no longer trying to resolve the issue but rather just trying to get the discussion over so I can stop feeling uncomfortable.  I really do make the effort.

And yet at times I fail.  And I hate when I do.

So many people would say “come on, don’t be so hard on yourself”. I disagree; I think the best way to learn from mistakes is to BE hard on yourself. Not for a long time, not in a way that makes you think you are a bad person in general, but certainly enough to learn the lesson thereby reducing the chances of it happening again. We do tend to remember unpleasantness, and if the realization and evaluation of some of your own behavior is unpleasant then perhaps it is less likely to happen again.

So be hard on yourself.  Learn a lesson.  And maybe it will be the last time it need be learned, which will be better for you and especially for those around you.

Lecture over.

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7 thoughts on “Be hard on yourself.

  1. Nathan Simpson Saturday April 9, 2011 at 8:08 am Reply

    You’re going to poke a hole in your water mattress that way.

  2. Tyler Hurst Saturday April 9, 2011 at 10:38 am Reply

    I feel you here.

    I’ve noticed that empathy is a fantastic teacher.

  3. Diana Thursday April 14, 2011 at 1:53 pm Reply

    I hope you don’t mind if I share this.

    • me Thursday April 14, 2011 at 2:26 pm Reply

      Not at all! That’s why all this silliness of mine is up here 🙂

      -Wayne

  4. Mark Dudlik Monday April 18, 2011 at 9:35 am Reply

    I agree with you except for the ‘Not for a long time’ part.

  5. Diana B Thursday June 2, 2011 at 9:13 pm Reply

    Mr. Inspiration….you haven’t posted in awhile and I am bummed. Where did your muse go? Find it please. 🙂

  6. me Friday June 3, 2011 at 7:13 am Reply

    My bad. Just haven’t been in a writing mood 😦 I HAVE been reading yours though 🙂

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